Im missing someone badly. Somehow i guess he doesnt...He gave me his utmost attention then he dissapeared. It tears me apart day n night. It’s that horrible feeling in your gut. It just won’t go away. You sometimes touch your stomach to make sure everything is still there. Physically, the pieces are in place, but that feeling makes it seem not to be true. They said, "Do not try to forget the ones you've lost, because you will never succeed. If they could give you such an impact, what makes you think you could forget them in the future? Instead, allow yourself to think of them and remember all the things you've done together. Do not fight it. If you want to miss or call or cry, let it be. Because one day you will stop. And when you stop, it's not because you have succeeded forgetting them, but you've actually managed to accept life and live without them." hmm and i kinda agree.. I so lonely broken angel...
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Happy New Year to all my Dearest Families n Friends. I believe everyone welcomed 2012 with much joy n happiness. I wanna thank de special people who touched my life with their concern & made my life more meaningful... U r one of em! Thank you for contribution 2 my life. May almighty ALLAH Continue 2 give you Abundant Blessing & Happiness in d Coming years Too.New Year Promises and goals? I shall keep em simple and achievable. Smile more... Make someone smile by giving them a reason to smile. Less of crying... means less Korean drama..;). Do a random act of kindness. N believe in myself... Above all, do have a Happy 2012!
“Each new day is a blank page in the diary of your life. The secret of success is in turning that diary into the best story you possibly can.” I wish you Happy New Year and diary full of best stories ever written in your life.
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Comic Martial Arts Performance
Esplanade Theatre
Sat 13 Aug 2011 8:00 PM
Circle 2 Door 9
JUMP is the first non-verbal performance to infuse blend Korean fighting arts of Taekwondo and Taekgyeondo, with incredible gymnastics skills in a comical style. This show is show a refreshing change from other nonverbal performances out there.
A typical Korean family from an autocratic head of the household – the grandfather, to a drunken uncle played by Eun Yong Yang (look Like Kenjo San)..lol, a tae-kwon-do expert mother to the awkward potential son-in-law. Each member of the family is a martial arts expert and loves to compete their martial arts skills among themselves. The plot thickens when two burglars break into the family home in the middle of the night and a mighty battle takes place when the family discovers the intruders.
I love the son-
in-law played by Sang Hee Yoon. He is a shy bookworm with a hunky alter ego. Once he takes off his glasses, he will transform into a martial arts power-house. *Electrocuted Style*
zZZzZeee*. The performers in JUMP did execute the humour together with the martial acts really well!
I agree that non-verbal communication does give people a wider range and variety to express and understand each other.
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As day goes by, there will be new changes to our home. Will update here along the way...
Start Of Renovation Date : 18/07/2011
Living Room w Feature Wall & False Ceiling
Dining Area...Full Length Tinted Mirror...
MBR Toilet w/ Shower Screen..
Dinning Area
LiVing Room Feature Wall

My Room... in PinK! I LoVin It!!!
Room 2 Feature Wall
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WoRk Hard Play Hard...ChiLLz OuT GuyZ!!!...
Phoenix Bar @ Carpenter Street
Shanghai Dolly

ATTICA

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Finally the day of my very first apartment. It was a small living space, but it was our own and i loved the independence i finally gained..
Our very own sets of keys.. YiPPiE!!!

View from the living room...

My Living Room Area...

Master Bedroom with Baywindow...

Second Common Room with Baywindow...

First Common Room with Baywindow

Kitchen...

Common Toilet...(Can be access by TWO ways. Either from Front Door or Service Yard)

Service Yard...
MBR Toilet with Vanity Top...
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It's been awhile...
Life still goes on whether i like it a not. As adrenaline and other stress related hormones pour into my sympathetic nervous system, i experience a heightened stated of arousal. I tot im goin crazy...but no i'm just getting stronger day by day. When i forgive , i don't forget how i've been wronged, but i do allow myself to stop dwelling on it. My hurtful memories are likely to stay alive, but relegated to a corner of my mind. I will continue to see the damage, but only as part of a picture that includes the loving time as well. That remind me why i chosen to stay together. The past may continue to sting but it teach me some important lessons and inspire me to do better...
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Wow, Suprised surprised... Huge slap in the face, Karma hit me 10 time worse. What have i just found out? His other prepaid number which i don't know, a girl name "MaLaO" in all his messages. How long have it been? Who? Why? When?. Thousand of questions hit me... i'm speechless... I don't know how to cope with it. I really need a short getaway to calm my system. I will never forget TODAY! I'm still alive but i'm barely breathing...I'm falling to pieces... All happened in just 1 day.
Started when i just reach home from Casey's house. He was half asleep and i saw his old phone beside the side table. First tot was *Samsung hp spoilt ar need to use old one back*... the moment i grap the phone he snatch it away. Wae? Then i realise his Samsung hp was charging outside so how come i don't know u have a another simcard... He said," Nothing r nothing". I sit n think. I could have just choose to believe his word, yup nothing and forget about it. But as a proverb says "Curiosity killed the cat".. yesh my curiosty lead me to 1 thing and another. I started to ask him and follow him around. He took out the simcard and hide it inside his pocket. But he told me a different thing, he throw the simcard at the computer table. I guess he is silly thinking that i would fall for it. Yesh i search around the computer table but at the same time, my eyes are on him. Computer monitor reflection, i saw him hiding the simcard inside his underwear. Wae? to that extend, im becoming more curious. When i wanna search him, he run toward the big dustbin and threw the simcard away. Fine! Second was his phone, i just need to transfer my simcard to his old phone and i ken read all the messages inside. Is he being silly? or brainless? He tot messages only save in simcard but not phone... So i managed to glance thru his message... same name, he snatched back the phone and took out my simcard and throw it away. This time i got really mad. I raise my voice, "U think u throw it in the dustbin, i won't dare to find it." He just mess with the wrong person... I went to the big dustbin situated behind my house and find the phone but too bad he was faster than me, he manage to get hold of the phone first and break it into 2. Wow drama!!! Y Y Y... if she just a friend why to this extend? -throw simcard -break the phone -New number which i doesn't even know -A special number just for her. He told my sister, she is just a friend he do that becoz he doesn't want to break my heart... So is he telling me that if i managed read all the messages i'm gonna be more broken hearted'. So what does that mean? oh pls... Im not a kid anymore...
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Bought myself a Nike Classic Cortez Leather for my future exercise purposes. LoL...
The other day me and my girlfriend went for a night jog near our home. Started with a warm up infront of my house. They revamp the whole place and now we have this small fitness corner beside the children playground. Great!!! for lazy people like us..lol. Ok get back to my story of my running shoe. Bought my old Nike shoe like thousand years ago. Abandoned for years and now finally i took it out, YikeS!!... guess what is inside? Dried roaches egg... not 1 but many...
No choice but to wear it, after i clean it off, Off Course... So we start jogging. After like 30 minute of jogged suddenly the the left outsole of the shoe started to fall apart. My friend laugh her heart out on me. I can't possibly continue jog in this position, so i rip off the other outsole too. End up in the dustbin after we complete thru our whole jogging journey... :(
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After a long wait, (average of 14 business days after order), finally i received my pre-order Juicy Couture bag. Kawaii desu ne?... I'm lovin it. ;) Reason why i never buy at Juicy Couture Boutique at Takashimaya Singapore, it's ExPenSivE! It cost $470 (no DisCouNt) while online only cost me $347... i paid like $123 less... Good buy so y not...
The bag have screen printed logo sparkles with crystals, embellishing a soft velour tote trimmed in lightly textured leather. A beautiful drawstring top and a dangling gem-encrusted logo charm complete the look. And the in-thingie, it pink in colour. My favourite colour... It have Magnetic-tab closure, something different from other bags... Exterior slip pocket & interior zip, wall and cell phone pockets; removable mirror. Its also have a protective metal feet below. Logo printed lining. Overall material is Cotton/Polyster with leather trim. Not waterproof for sure..
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Love this song. It's forever stuck on repeat mode...
Falling a thousand feet per second, you still take me by surprise
I just know we can't be over, I can see it in your eyes
Making every kind of silence, takes a lot to realize
It's worse to finish than to start all over and never let it lie
And as long as I can feel you holding on
I won't fall, even if you said I was wrong
I'm not perfect, but I keep trying
Cause that's what I said I would do from the start
I'm not alive if I'm lonely, so please don't leave
Was it something I said or just my personality?
When you're caught in a lie and you've got nothing to hide
When you've got nowhere to run and you've got nothing inside
It tears right through me, you thought that you knew me
You thought that you knew
I'm not perfect, but I keep trying
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Happy New Year 2011 everybody!!!...
I know, i know i'm a tad too late but better late than never right? lol.. This year is the first year I did not make new years resolutions. Wae? Well, mostly because I never keep them and I’m horrible about making long term goals and commitments without lots of intermediate steps. Eg 2010 resolution? Save more money, lose weight... i did none, in fact i gain more weight and spend more money.. so WTH... lol... I wonder how would this year 2011 be different compared to the year 2010. Nothing change basically, wake up with my baby Esham beside me... i was hoping Kim Hyun Joong look alike or something...lol... drEam On!!! lol
k i shall not continue any further... GOoD niGhT!!!
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending."
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Off DaY n Bored so we went for a makeover @ The Studio Singapore 22 Amoy Street. Expensive for sure that y we only choose a few best shot.. Have gReat fun. I LoiKe!!
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Somehow i got this bad feeling someone is backstabbing me from behind... make me more sick and tired working in this line... So who is real? So who can i trust? the one i trust no longer around...i feel like im drowning myself in pool full of hypocrites. Shall i be 1 of em? or shall i go back to my more quiet days?
Sally (Friend Of Foe?) - Naggy as always, love to repeat. Irritating sometimes but just say she like my mother. Work 10 years more so i guess she somehow noe everybody undies underwear smell like..lol. Targeted as hypocrite by others. Me somehow try not to get her into more deep shit by cust, getting myself labeled as hypocrite.. What!!!!. I can't even go out lunch with her now? so who hav been reporting telling things about me now...haiz... They talk bad about her around me, i kept my mouth shut becoz i dun want the relationship between co colleaque to go sour. I realise things is repeating itself... this prob use to happen when SawMoi was around arise already...
I already noe who the person is. A question for you to ponder. Who will be happy to see my downfall? very chim right or shud i say who happy to see me kena scolding?..lol..
An article i read "How To Deal with BKStbber :
"difficult" behaviors are typically attributable to low work interest and low self esteem. The expression of this difficult behavior in testing could be grouped into two categories. The first category consisted of aggressive behaviors, such as disagreeing, complaining, yelling, being sarcastic, and gossiping, to name a few.
The second category consisted of passive behaviors, including indecisiveness, unresponsiveness, and simply agreeing with everyone all the time. This shows that difficult employees are apt to display multiple negative behaviors, not just one. The tests also did not reveal that people with low self esteem were correlated in the passive group or the aggressive group.
Here are a few things you can do to shield yourself:
Think before speaking. Pathological backstabbers are constantly trolling for information, secrets, dirt. They may initiate a conversation in which they seem to give out some personal information which may or may not be fabricated in order to get you to reciprocate as is common in friendly conversation. Remember, with backstabbers, anything you say can and will be held against you. Some warning signs are overly friendly smiles or gestures. Don't be paranoid, just be observant.
Don't get involved, but don't disconnect either. Backstabbing is a habitual offense. Some do it primarily because they believe it will serve their purposes, some do it because pulling someone down makes them feel better (or, more accurately, less bad) about themself, and for some it's simply become a part of their personality. While keeping your distance is certainly a good idea, the last person to know is usually the one being talked about. Keep your ear to the tracks.
Backstabbers love to keep up appearances. If you want to confront the backstabber, do it in public with witnesses and, most importantly, stay in control emotionally. This way later the backstabber will be powerless to spread lies to the effect that you flew off the handle with wild accusations at him or her.
Moving on is essential. Say the backstabber has really gotten you. You probably feel mad, frustrated, and vulnerable. If the backstabber has really done some damage, you could have some real setbacks in your career or reputation.
Grieving is healthy. Of couse you don't want to- nobody wants to spend time in sadness. Try to avoid the knee-jerk reaction of saying "no big deal" when something has truly hurt you. Don't let these things get pent up in a bottle. Depending on the severity of what has happened, this may warrant anything from venting to a trusted friend to an all out cry. Alternatively, if some other healthy reaction helps you to get it out of your system, like running, swimming, or pounding a punching bag, go for it! You'll be glad you did afterwards.
This last piece of advice comes from the Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Sourcebook by Glenn R. Schiraldi: "
To forgive is to release resentment, hatred, bitterness and desires for revenge...We choose not to hate the offender, even though we hate what he or she did." When you forgive, you don't literally forget about the existence of the offense, and you don't have to ignore the fact that it did cause you pain and hurt. Forgiving doesn't mean you approve of the offense or allow it to happen again. You don't have to become friends with that person or trust them to show that you really forgive them. Trust is something that takes a long time to earn, not something given as a token of forgiveness. Remember this in case the backstabber tries to tell you the lie, "You obviously didn't forgive me because you don't trust me!" Very likely, the backstabber may someone it could never be possible to trust.
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Venue : BugIs - Bugis Village - Haji Lane - Bali Lane
Time : 11.30am till wee hours
Guest : MySelf, Iqah, Lynn, Lisa, Adele & Jonathan
Went Seoul Garden for Lunch. Catch a movie "Rapunzel : The Tangled Tale". Shopping all over the place and lastly went to Escapade for sheesha-in at Bali Lane. The damages done to our pockets is worthwhile as long as we could get together like this ;)
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Im missing someone badly. Somehow i guess he doesnt...He gave me his utmost attention then he dissapeared. It tears me apart day n night. It’s that horrible feeling in your gut. It just won’t go away. You sometimes touch your stomach to make sure everything is still there. Physically, the pieces are in place, but that feeling makes it seem not to be true. They said, "Do not try to forget the ones you've lost, because you will never succeed. If they could give you such an impact, what makes you think you could forget them in the future? Instead, allow yourself to think of them and remember all the things you've done together. Do not fight it. If you want to miss or call or cry, let it be. Because one day you will stop. And when you stop, it's not because you have succeeded forgetting them, but you've actually managed to accept life and live without them." hmm and i kinda agree.. I so lonely broken angel...
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Happy New Year to all my Dearest Families n Friends. I believe everyone welcomed 2012 with much joy n happiness. I wanna thank de special people who touched my life with their concern & made my life more meaningful... U r one of em! Thank you for contribution 2 my life. May almighty ALLAH Continue 2 give you Abundant Blessing & Happiness in d Coming years Too.New Year Promises and goals? I shall keep em simple and achievable. Smile more... Make someone smile by giving them a reason to smile. Less of crying... means less Korean drama..;). Do a random act of kindness. N believe in myself... Above all, do have a Happy 2012!
“Each new day is a blank page in the diary of your life. The secret of success is in turning that diary into the best story you possibly can.” I wish you Happy New Year and diary full of best stories ever written in your life.
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Comic Martial Arts Performance
Esplanade Theatre
Sat 13 Aug 2011 8:00 PM
Circle 2 Door 9
JUMP is the first non-verbal performance to infuse blend Korean fighting arts of Taekwondo and Taekgyeondo, with incredible gymnastics skills in a comical style. This show is show a refreshing change from other nonverbal performances out there.
A typical Korean family from an autocratic head of the household – the grandfather, to a drunken uncle played by Eun Yong Yang (look Like Kenjo San)..lol, a tae-kwon-do expert mother to the awkward potential son-in-law. Each member of the family is a martial arts expert and loves to compete their martial arts skills among themselves. The plot thickens when two burglars break into the family home in the middle of the night and a mighty battle takes place when the family discovers the intruders.
I love the son-
in-law played by Sang Hee Yoon. He is a shy bookworm with a hunky alter ego. Once he takes off his glasses, he will transform into a martial arts power-house. *Electrocuted Style*
zZZzZeee*. The performers in JUMP did execute the humour together with the martial acts really well!
I agree that non-verbal communication does give people a wider range and variety to express and understand each other.
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As day goes by, there will be new changes to our home. Will update here along the way...
Start Of Renovation Date : 18/07/2011
Living Room w Feature Wall & False Ceiling
Dining Area...Full Length Tinted Mirror...
MBR Toilet w/ Shower Screen..
Dinning Area
LiVing Room Feature Wall

My Room... in PinK! I LoVin It!!!
Room 2 Feature Wall
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WoRk Hard Play Hard...ChiLLz OuT GuyZ!!!...
Phoenix Bar @ Carpenter Street
Shanghai Dolly

ATTICA

Soulz Singapore
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Finally the day of my very first apartment. It was a small living space, but it was our own and i loved the independence i finally gained..
Our very own sets of keys.. YiPPiE!!!

View from the living room...

My Living Room Area...

Master Bedroom with Baywindow...

Second Common Room with Baywindow...

First Common Room with Baywindow

Kitchen...

Common Toilet...(Can be access by TWO ways. Either from Front Door or Service Yard)

Service Yard...
MBR Toilet with Vanity Top...
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It's been awhile...
Life still goes on whether i like it a not. As adrenaline and other stress related hormones pour into my sympathetic nervous system, i experience a heightened stated of arousal. I tot im goin crazy...but no i'm just getting stronger day by day. When i forgive , i don't forget how i've been wronged, but i do allow myself to stop dwelling on it. My hurtful memories are likely to stay alive, but relegated to a corner of my mind. I will continue to see the damage, but only as part of a picture that includes the loving time as well. That remind me why i chosen to stay together. The past may continue to sting but it teach me some important lessons and inspire me to do better...
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Wow, Suprised surprised... Huge slap in the face, Karma hit me 10 time worse. What have i just found out? His other prepaid number which i don't know, a girl name "MaLaO" in all his messages. How long have it been? Who? Why? When?. Thousand of questions hit me... i'm speechless... I don't know how to cope with it. I really need a short getaway to calm my system. I will never forget TODAY! I'm still alive but i'm barely breathing...I'm falling to pieces... All happened in just 1 day.
Started when i just reach home from Casey's house. He was half asleep and i saw his old phone beside the side table. First tot was *Samsung hp spoilt ar need to use old one back*... the moment i grap the phone he snatch it away. Wae? Then i realise his Samsung hp was charging outside so how come i don't know u have a another simcard... He said," Nothing r nothing". I sit n think. I could have just choose to believe his word, yup nothing and forget about it. But as a proverb says "Curiosity killed the cat".. yesh my curiosty lead me to 1 thing and another. I started to ask him and follow him around. He took out the simcard and hide it inside his pocket. But he told me a different thing, he throw the simcard at the computer table. I guess he is silly thinking that i would fall for it. Yesh i search around the computer table but at the same time, my eyes are on him. Computer monitor reflection, i saw him hiding the simcard inside his underwear. Wae? to that extend, im becoming more curious. When i wanna search him, he run toward the big dustbin and threw the simcard away. Fine! Second was his phone, i just need to transfer my simcard to his old phone and i ken read all the messages inside. Is he being silly? or brainless? He tot messages only save in simcard but not phone... So i managed to glance thru his message... same name, he snatched back the phone and took out my simcard and throw it away. This time i got really mad. I raise my voice, "U think u throw it in the dustbin, i won't dare to find it." He just mess with the wrong person... I went to the big dustbin situated behind my house and find the phone but too bad he was faster than me, he manage to get hold of the phone first and break it into 2. Wow drama!!! Y Y Y... if she just a friend why to this extend? -throw simcard -break the phone -New number which i doesn't even know -A special number just for her. He told my sister, she is just a friend he do that becoz he doesn't want to break my heart... So is he telling me that if i managed read all the messages i'm gonna be more broken hearted'. So what does that mean? oh pls... Im not a kid anymore...
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Bought myself a Nike Classic Cortez Leather for my future exercise purposes. LoL...
The other day me and my girlfriend went for a night jog near our home. Started with a warm up infront of my house. They revamp the whole place and now we have this small fitness corner beside the children playground. Great!!! for lazy people like us..lol. Ok get back to my story of my running shoe. Bought my old Nike shoe like thousand years ago. Abandoned for years and now finally i took it out, YikeS!!... guess what is inside? Dried roaches egg... not 1 but many...
No choice but to wear it, after i clean it off, Off Course... So we start jogging. After like 30 minute of jogged suddenly the the left outsole of the shoe started to fall apart. My friend laugh her heart out on me. I can't possibly continue jog in this position, so i rip off the other outsole too. End up in the dustbin after we complete thru our whole jogging journey... :(
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After a long wait, (average of 14 business days after order), finally i received my pre-order Juicy Couture bag. Kawaii desu ne?... I'm lovin it. ;) Reason why i never buy at Juicy Couture Boutique at Takashimaya Singapore, it's ExPenSivE! It cost $470 (no DisCouNt) while online only cost me $347... i paid like $123 less... Good buy so y not...
The bag have screen printed logo sparkles with crystals, embellishing a soft velour tote trimmed in lightly textured leather. A beautiful drawstring top and a dangling gem-encrusted logo charm complete the look. And the in-thingie, it pink in colour. My favourite colour... It have Magnetic-tab closure, something different from other bags... Exterior slip pocket & interior zip, wall and cell phone pockets; removable mirror. Its also have a protective metal feet below. Logo printed lining. Overall material is Cotton/Polyster with leather trim. Not waterproof for sure..
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Love this song. It's forever stuck on repeat mode...
Falling a thousand feet per second, you still take me by surprise
I just know we can't be over, I can see it in your eyes
Making every kind of silence, takes a lot to realize
It's worse to finish than to start all over and never let it lie
And as long as I can feel you holding on
I won't fall, even if you said I was wrong
I'm not perfect, but I keep trying
Cause that's what I said I would do from the start
I'm not alive if I'm lonely, so please don't leave
Was it something I said or just my personality?
When you're caught in a lie and you've got nothing to hide
When you've got nowhere to run and you've got nothing inside
It tears right through me, you thought that you knew me
You thought that you knew
I'm not perfect, but I keep trying
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Happy New Year 2011 everybody!!!...
I know, i know i'm a tad too late but better late than never right? lol.. This year is the first year I did not make new years resolutions. Wae? Well, mostly because I never keep them and I’m horrible about making long term goals and commitments without lots of intermediate steps. Eg 2010 resolution? Save more money, lose weight... i did none, in fact i gain more weight and spend more money.. so WTH... lol... I wonder how would this year 2011 be different compared to the year 2010. Nothing change basically, wake up with my baby Esham beside me... i was hoping Kim Hyun Joong look alike or something...lol... drEam On!!! lol
k i shall not continue any further... GOoD niGhT!!!
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending."
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Off DaY n Bored so we went for a makeover @ The Studio Singapore 22 Amoy Street. Expensive for sure that y we only choose a few best shot.. Have gReat fun. I LoiKe!!
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Somehow i got this bad feeling someone is backstabbing me from behind... make me more sick and tired working in this line... So who is real? So who can i trust? the one i trust no longer around...i feel like im drowning myself in pool full of hypocrites. Shall i be 1 of em? or shall i go back to my more quiet days?
Sally (Friend Of Foe?) - Naggy as always, love to repeat. Irritating sometimes but just say she like my mother. Work 10 years more so i guess she somehow noe everybody undies underwear smell like..lol. Targeted as hypocrite by others. Me somehow try not to get her into more deep shit by cust, getting myself labeled as hypocrite.. What!!!!. I can't even go out lunch with her now? so who hav been reporting telling things about me now...haiz... They talk bad about her around me, i kept my mouth shut becoz i dun want the relationship between co colleaque to go sour. I realise things is repeating itself... this prob use to happen when SawMoi was around arise already...
I already noe who the person is. A question for you to ponder. Who will be happy to see my downfall? very chim right or shud i say who happy to see me kena scolding?..lol..
An article i read "How To Deal with BKStbber :
"difficult" behaviors are typically attributable to low work interest and low self esteem. The expression of this difficult behavior in testing could be grouped into two categories. The first category consisted of aggressive behaviors, such as disagreeing, complaining, yelling, being sarcastic, and gossiping, to name a few.
The second category consisted of passive behaviors, including indecisiveness, unresponsiveness, and simply agreeing with everyone all the time. This shows that difficult employees are apt to display multiple negative behaviors, not just one. The tests also did not reveal that people with low self esteem were correlated in the passive group or the aggressive group.
Here are a few things you can do to shield yourself:
Think before speaking. Pathological backstabbers are constantly trolling for information, secrets, dirt. They may initiate a conversation in which they seem to give out some personal information which may or may not be fabricated in order to get you to reciprocate as is common in friendly conversation. Remember, with backstabbers, anything you say can and will be held against you. Some warning signs are overly friendly smiles or gestures. Don't be paranoid, just be observant.
Don't get involved, but don't disconnect either. Backstabbing is a habitual offense. Some do it primarily because they believe it will serve their purposes, some do it because pulling someone down makes them feel better (or, more accurately, less bad) about themself, and for some it's simply become a part of their personality. While keeping your distance is certainly a good idea, the last person to know is usually the one being talked about. Keep your ear to the tracks.
Backstabbers love to keep up appearances. If you want to confront the backstabber, do it in public with witnesses and, most importantly, stay in control emotionally. This way later the backstabber will be powerless to spread lies to the effect that you flew off the handle with wild accusations at him or her.
Moving on is essential. Say the backstabber has really gotten you. You probably feel mad, frustrated, and vulnerable. If the backstabber has really done some damage, you could have some real setbacks in your career or reputation.
Grieving is healthy. Of couse you don't want to- nobody wants to spend time in sadness. Try to avoid the knee-jerk reaction of saying "no big deal" when something has truly hurt you. Don't let these things get pent up in a bottle. Depending on the severity of what has happened, this may warrant anything from venting to a trusted friend to an all out cry. Alternatively, if some other healthy reaction helps you to get it out of your system, like running, swimming, or pounding a punching bag, go for it! You'll be glad you did afterwards.
This last piece of advice comes from the Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Sourcebook by Glenn R. Schiraldi: "
To forgive is to release resentment, hatred, bitterness and desires for revenge...We choose not to hate the offender, even though we hate what he or she did." When you forgive, you don't literally forget about the existence of the offense, and you don't have to ignore the fact that it did cause you pain and hurt. Forgiving doesn't mean you approve of the offense or allow it to happen again. You don't have to become friends with that person or trust them to show that you really forgive them. Trust is something that takes a long time to earn, not something given as a token of forgiveness. Remember this in case the backstabber tries to tell you the lie, "You obviously didn't forgive me because you don't trust me!" Very likely, the backstabber may someone it could never be possible to trust.
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Venue : BugIs - Bugis Village - Haji Lane - Bali Lane
Time : 11.30am till wee hours
Guest : MySelf, Iqah, Lynn, Lisa, Adele & Jonathan
Went Seoul Garden for Lunch. Catch a movie "Rapunzel : The Tangled Tale". Shopping all over the place and lastly went to Escapade for sheesha-in at Bali Lane. The damages done to our pockets is worthwhile as long as we could get together like this ;)
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